Wednesday, June 16, 2010

My thoughts on letter writing

Sometimes I wonder why I write letters? It can be quite a time consuming and expensive hobby and I cant help but wonder if there is any point when I will possibly never meet the people I write to.Surely I should be cleaning or studying or exercising instead? Do any other avid letter writers feel this way? Don't get me wrong I love writing letters and I love my penpals but I think it is normal to question anything in your life that you spend a significant amount of time doing.
Today though I stopped questioning and realised what an amazing hobby it really is. I am at the point where I am starting to establish real connections with people, which I honestly feel can take awhile through those first few letters. I look forward to hearing about what is happening in their life. I feel sad when I find out something is not right and I am genuinely excited and happy when good things happen. I enjoy sharing things with them and i often find it quite therapeutic to just sit down and write. 
Letter writing does not discriminate, anyone can write a letter. You have the opportunity to make friends from around the world, people that you might not necessarily meet in your day to day life. And I am beginning to realise that it doesn't matter if I don't meet my pen-pals in the flesh (even though I would love to) that friendship is still there regardless of time and space.
Whilst letter writing is not for everyone, like most sporting activities are not for me (uncoordinated much?) I am happy that I have found something that makes me happy and allows me to make friends and hopefully brighten someone else's day. 

24 comments:

  1. I agree with this post but I just wanted to let you know your letters always brighten my day :)

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  2. Oh and she is a hamster :) I still haven't really decided on a name, I think Oreo is a good name but I am inclined to go with my first instinct of Pip... I'm giving myself til the end of the week to decide ;)

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  3. Thanks Zoe! I was unsure whether to post this because I didn't want people to think I didn't appreciate the letters I get but wanted to share my thoughts on the subject especially since my blog posts are usually related to mail and I read so many mail blogs.
    Sometime it is best to go with your initial instinct, good luck deciding.

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  4. Letter writing is totally for me. Sporting activities, for the most part, are not! We're kindred spirits, I think. And I love getting your letters... They totally brighten my day!

    PS: Whatever happened to your blogging around the world series? It was great!

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  5. Oh Erin I really need to start that again don't I? I was just thinking about it on the bus yesterday. Look out for it soon. I got your letter today and loved it, you always find the nicest cards.

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  6. i love letter writing but sometimes i question it like you said. mainly cuz i'll think to myself why i'm spending so much money on someone i will most likely never meet (like when i do swaps) but it's just so fun!! but i really do enjoy it, so that's why i keep doing it.

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  7. So true; letter-writing is such a lost art! Thankyou for your beautiful comments my lovely,

    Claire @ Jazzpad

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  8. This was such a great post! I think we all questions things that we spend a lot of time on. I sometimes also feel that way but the letters definitely brighten up my day :) As for making friends I agree. It's one of the reasons I started penpalling all those years ago.

    P.S. I can't wait to see your journal pages! Oh and I'm not sure why I'm taking so long with the journal swap. I have to organise myself better and stop procrastinating. xx

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  9. Awesome post Megan!
    I love writing letters and receiving a hand written letter. I think it's the thought that counts that someone sat down and wrote me a letter. I've been penpalling since I was 13 and I was hooked.

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  10. I'm pretty sure that will take me some ages to meet "in flesh" some of my pals, if I ever will meet them, because they are from very far places especially. As you I question myself sometimes "why penpalling", why I love so much such a things. Actually I question myself the most with "will I forget life outside because of penpalling?", I don't think so. I think we are lucky, for some reason we found this, we found amazing people that other people around us never had lucky to find.

    Sometimes I can even be disappointed and think that I should stop with penpalling because my disappointment can be repeated time after time, but in the next seconds I back to reality and I just can't do it. :D

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  11. Well, we can't just clean or study all day, right? ;)
    Of course there are things we need to do, but to write a letter is not a waste of time, I think. It allows you to think, to discover new worlds, new cultures, new stories. It gives you friends, and soon or later you'll meet the closest ones eventually! I did, and it was a very nice experience! I've seen another part of my country, and found a real friend!
    So, we all have hobbies, and I think letter writing is a better way to spend time than TV.
    You can be proud of this passion. :D

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  12. i'm so happy that you wrote this. i love letter writing (i wrote my mum almost every day when i was little and i went to summer camp), and i've been meaning to get back into it. one of friends gave me some beautiful stationary and sealing wax for my birthday, but i just have not had enough time to use it :-( also your stationary swap stationary is still displayed on my shelf! (too pretty to use!)

    i'm going to make it a point this summer to get back in to letter writing. i just read a book- Ruth Reichl's For You Mom, Finally- and it talks about all the letters that the author found that were addressed to her mom. It gave so much meaning to letter writing. It truly is a beautiful art.

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  13. it does take awhile to establish connections through letter writing. thanks for admitting that. i happen to love all your mail posts, so i hope you will always embrace snail mailing.

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  14. It's funny, you wonder what you could possibly do with all that time you spend writing letters.

    I know a few gamers that question what they would do if they weren't on their PC's.

    It's a hobby. It's bound to take up your time, especially when you are concentrating. The main thing is to really enjoy it. People always say video games are terrible - but how does the person feel who calls it his/her hobby? Perhaps its a way to unwind after an incredibly stressful day. Maybe it was a game that this person played with a parent who passed away. Maybe it's their way of accepting things. Who knows.

    It's only when you put a hobby before life and family that it can become a problem. Until that point I say, Hobby-on Garth!

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  15. i love old handwriting on ancient envelopes. my friend and i used to write each other letters all the time, quotes and just little memories, and then exchange them in the school canteen! maybe i should start again...

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  16. I love writing letters and as functional and easy as email is, it has taken a lot away from the charm of letter writing. It's nice to see there are people who still love it as much as I do!

    x Jasmine

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  18. I love to write letters and had a steady penpal for almost four years when I was a teenager. I love everything from the pretty stationary to just the act of handwriting. I follow you on Twitter by the way, thought I would stop by and check out your blog!

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  19. I thought about that too. At one point I thought, "Why'd I start this expensive hobby in the first place?" Well, I genuinely love the friendships I've made through it. Often times I find myself really unsatisfied with the friendships I have with people I know in person. But when I'm writing to a pen pal, I feel really close to them.

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  20. I can understand what you mean about it being an expensive past time Megan but I think a letter is still worth so much more than an email/text/fb message. There is something so special and magical about the joy and excitement a letter brings.
    xx

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  21. I have been able to meet a couple of my overseas penpals in person, so it does happen! Actually my Japanese friend and I met FIRST in Los Angeles, then started writing (20 years now) and she's been back to the USA to visit me. My dream trip is to go to Japan. My Australian penpal also visited me.

    I have always been a letter-writer, since I was a child, wayyyyyyyyy before emailing. As Cassie described it above, there's that moment of joy and excitement a letter brings. I do love following blogs because we use it as a media to convey a range of topics and pictures.

    Yes, postage can get expensive! But there are many other more expensive hobbies...like the motorcycle enthusiast I live with...

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  22. oh how i truly agree! i adore my penpal and i know that when we meet in person it will be as if we've always known each other!

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  23. i love honest posts and i can imagine how scary it was to hit publish on this, worrying your pen pals might take offense but it's this honesty that is so refreshing. It is SO expensive. You are absolutely right.

    But it's worth it.

    people ask me how i have time for it and yes it's time consuming but the truth is, if someone can take the time for you-- how can you not for them? it truly is a joy to put together something fun and detailed for a friend. It makes me so happy!

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